I recently turned 24 and this post was meant to be published on my birthday, 27th September but adulting gets in the way but better late than never, right? When I turned 22 I remember I shared 22 lessons I had learnt in my 22 years and since I have learnt so much the past 2 years I would like to share with y’all a letter I wrote to myself with things I have learnt along the way.

Dear me,

Looking back over the years, I now realize how much you have grown. You have been through some really tough times in your life, yet somehow you managed to keep the faith and I am glad you are still here.

I am really proud of you, “when last did you hear that? Must have been forever since I rarely tell you that.” You’ve truly come from far and you need to be proud of yourself. Since you wrote “WHYAM I AFRAID OF TELLING YOU WHO I AM?” you have really grown. Life hasn’t been easy but you have kept your head up and I am truly proud of you. You have achieved so much, you are a whole CEO sis, that’s a big deal. I know 2 years ago you never imagined that you will come this far but here you are living in your answered prayers.

I really love you, love the way you are resilient, love your flaws, your authenticity, your vibes, your everything. I wholeheartedly love you. You really struggled loving yourself but I am glad you came around.

Everything happens for a reason and you have to trust in the Divine and not worry. Things will fall into place at the right time. Even that boy that made you go to therapy there is a reason because now you know how to identify a narcissist from a far; you didn’t need to go through that though.

Letting go is beautiful in the ugliest way haha. So gracefully let go of the things and people that are not meant for you. Give yourself time to grieve but don’t dwell on that loss forever. Letting go won’t be easy because you will feel as if you are losing a part of yourself but letting go allows you to receive new things.

Healing is your priority because nobody is coming to save you. The past 2 years have really been a roller-coaster of learning and unlearning, loving and blaming yourself, accepting and unaccepting. You have realized that healing isn’t linear and it’s a never-ending process. Witnessing you heal from the things you went through and rarely speak about has been amazing. You no longer have unbearable anxiety and depressive episodes.

You have so much potential in you and it would be a waste if you let fear get in the way. I know bouts of self-doubt will come and go but darling remember how far you have come and how far you are going. Don’t be afraid to go after the things that set your soul on fire.

Create meaningful relationships and be intentional about them. You need a tribe that will cheer you on, hold you up and be there for you that is why you need to create intentional bonds with people.

Not everyone you will meet is meant to stay around forever so treat people like experiences. You will also leave people when the time comes so don’t be sad when that happens. People will disappoint you, and all you can do is learn to appreciate them for what they have taught you.

Be honest with yourself. You owe yourself the truth and most importantly, you need to accept the truth. The person that you shouldn’t lie to is YOURSELF!

Create an authentic life; a life that you will be proud of. Promise me, you will make the most of it all and don’t let anyone get in the way of your goals in life. More importantly, never give up on your passions and your dreams. Do not waste your time on people who do not believe in you. You don’t need anyone like that in your life. Only surround yourself with people who encourage and inspire you.

Learn to silence the outside noise and listen to your inner voice, sit with your emotions no matter how difficult they are. Trust your intuition, they are messages from your soul.

Don’t take everything so personally and try to not let others get you down. Most of the time, things have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the other person. When people hurt you, try and understand their side of the story. Forgive them. Learn from their wrongdoings, and then let it remain in the past.

Don’t ever stop seeing the good in people, though. Please don’t let all that has happened to you turn you sour and bitter like love once did. You’re better than those who hurt you, and you shouldn’t punish yourself for their inability to show you how much you deserve.

Being an emotional and sensitive person isn’t a weakness. It is not something to hide like you did for all those years. Be kind but take no shii. Tears are not shameful so cry when you need to.

Manifestation works and having visual boards and written goals help you to not get sidetracked. Everything you want is achievable.

Solo dates should be a thing. How on earth have you not been doing that often? Haha! Girl take yourself on as many dates as possible.

Do not put a timeline on your life, when you will get married, get a job and start a family. Enjoy your present life and things will fall into place at the right time.

It is okay to not have it all figured out. Seriously, no one on this earth has it figured out so don’t stress yourself too much.

Always practice gratitude. A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.

It is okay to ask for help. You cannot figure everything out by yourself. I know you struggle with this but give yourself time to be open to that.

You are beautiful, smart, talented and ambitious young woman. Never forget that!

Like a phoenix you have risen through the ashes and you will continue rising through whatever life throws at you.

Always remember to pray and trust in God because He will protect and guide you throughout this journey.

I hope you come back to read this letter in a few years or whenever life gets overwhelming and remind yourself of what you wrote to yourself.

I love you,


This was an emotional experience and a few tears were shed during this process. Writing a letter to yourself is really liberating and I hope I will never stop doing this.